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Billie Silvey
Pinocchio was a wooden puppet carved from a piece of
pine by a woodcarver named
Geppetto.  The character first
appeared in 1883 in
The Adventures of Pinocchio by
Carlo
Collodi.

Pinocchio dreamed of being a real boy, and he was very
human in his propensity to tell lies.  He was much more than
a puppet--or even a human--in that his long nose grew even
longer when he told a lie.

What would it be like for us if our lies would be "written on
our faces" in such an obvious way?

Honesty is basic to counseling.  If we don't tell the truth to
the person who's counseling us, how can they possibly be of
any help?  In fact, honesty is basic to both our personality
and our relationships.

1.  Honesty is the basis of our individual identity, our
personality.
If we aren’t honest, first with ourselves
and then with those around us, we won’t have a solid
center to our lives.

As the Psalmist says of God, "Surely you desire truth in the
inner parts" (Psalm 51:6).

2.  Honesty is the basis of our relationships.  We canâ
€™t have a true relationship that’s based on a lie.

"Do not lie to each other, since you have taken off your old
self with its practices" (Colossians 3:9).

Why do we lie?
First, out of fear. It starts with the child who knocks over
a vase and blames the cat, but some of us don’t grow
beyond that.  We live in constant fear that somebody will
find us out.  And they will, if we aren’t honest.

"Speaking the truth in love, we will in all things grow up into
him who is the Head, that is Christ" (Ephesians 4:15).

Second, out of defensiveness. Even for the things we are
willing to admit that we do, it’s easy to start piling up
excuses.

I once served on a jury trying a thief who had been caught
in the act. He had this complicated story of what really
happened—what he was doing on that block, how he
ended up with a pillowcase full of things from the house.

The convoluted nature of his defense, coupled with the fact
that he didn't seem able to give a straightforward answer to
a straightforward question, was enough to convince me that
the obvious story was the true one.

To have an integrated personality, to enjoy the fruits of
helpful counseling, to enjoy satisfying relationships and to
please God, it's important to be honest--with ourselves, our
fellow human beings and God.
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